Tips to Start (or Continue) the Conversation

 

 

Many parents feel anxious about talking to their child about sex and relationships. Here are a few tips to help you get started.

 

• Start early and create open dialogue. Sexuality education is not one “big talk.” It’s an ongoing discussion with your child(ren) that starts with simple concepts and gains complexity and detail as the child ages. Start as early as you can, but remember, it’s never too late to talk.
   

• Use “teachable moments.” When you’re watching TV or a movie that includes a sexual topic or listening to a song with lyrics about sex or gender roles, use it as an excuse to start a conversation. “Do you know what ____ means?” “What did you think about…?"
   

• Think back on your own sexual health education. What was your experience growing up?  How would you like your own child’s sexuality education to be similar or different?
   

• It’s OK to be nervous. If you expect that the first few conversations might feel a bit awkward, try talking in the car or while making dinner.
   

• Make sure you understand your child’s question before answering. A classic example is a child asks, “Where did I come from?”  The parent gives a long explanation about pregnancy and birth. The child looks puzzled and says, “Well, Timmy said he came from Michigan. Where am I from?”
   

• Talk to other parents for their advice. If friends have talked to their children about sex, what worked for them? What did they find difficult? Look to one another as a support system.
   

• Look for resources. There are many helpful resources for parents and families such as books, workshops, and websites. We’ve compiled a list of Resources for Parents. Take a look!